Male masturbators can be a godsend for guys who want to increase the physical pleasure of jerking off, but most strokers for sale in sex stores feel artificial and rubbery.
Enter the Fleshlight.
Fleshlight is well-known for making masturbation toys that look like chunky, heavy-duty flashlights. And it's true－their hard plastic cases feel sturdy in the hand.
But their soft, silky interchangeable sleeves that look like vaginas and butts are what makes Fleshlights so popular. Fleshlight makes over 70 different sleeves, each with its own appearance, entry hole, and internal texture that you can switch out when the mood strikes. They constantly release new sleeves, too.
No sex toy is perfect, though, and Fleshlights definitely have drawbacks, the biggest being their time-consuming, overly-involved drying process. But for first-time buyers who can accept some tradeoffs, buying a Fleshlight can open up new worlds of sexual pleasure.
In this in-depth Fleshlight review, I’ll be answering all your burning questions about this top-selling pocket pussy, including:
At 4 inches wide (at widest) by 10 inches tall, a full-sized Fleshlight is larger than most other models out there on the market. The hard outer shell is made from thick plastic that feels durable, like a Craftsman drill.
It's also heavier than most other penetrable penis toys, weighing a whopping 1.6 pounds according to our scale. At the end of long jack-off sessions, I could certainly feel that weight straining muscles in my arm, wrist, and hand, though I should note that it never felt exhausting. Most of the weight comes from the soft, squishy inner sleeve, made from Superskin, their proprietary TPE material.
Read our guide: What is a Fleshlight?
Fleshlight sleeves come in a wide variety of colors and skin tones, from totally clear to metallic gray to "flesh" colors. But no matter the color or model name, every sleeve is made using the same basic Superskin recipe, except for the dyes and coloring agents.
Even though all the different types of Fleshlights are made from the same ingredients, each sleeve has its own unique orifice, inner texture and “character traits”.
Some sleeve textures like Vibro and Stamina Training Unit have a consistent pattern running up and down the entire canal, but most have multiple chambers of varying widths, depths, and sizes. Depending on the sleeve, the inner texture could be covered in little spirals, nubs or nodes. Or tentacles ribs and bumps. It's very scientific.
One feature I really like is the interchangeable sleeves, which allows you to swap them out whenever your sexual fantasies change or evolve over time.
If you have trouble remembering all the various Fleshlight models and options, you're definitely not the only one. Here's a quick overview to help you compare key similarities and differences between the types of Fleshlights.
This top-of-the-line model is all about heightening realism. Its entry holes are molded from porn stars’ vaginas and buttholes. It costs 10 bucks more than other models, and comes in a wider range of “flesh-toned” colors, including light, tan, caramel brown, and dark brown mocha, and a pearl white case. You can buy Girls sleeves separately or with a case.
The main benefit of the FLG range is that the orifice is more attractive and realistic-looking than the generic Lady and Butt entries. If you’re the kind of guy with an active fantasy life, this could add another layer of depth to your fantasies. But at the end of the day, what you are paying for is the design of the sleeve’s orifice and internal texture.
Some guys think the material in Girls sleeves feels softer than standard pink sleeves, but that’s never been confirmed by ILF, the manufacturer.
This original combo of black case and pink Lady /sleeve combo is the one that started it all. Options for entry holes include the lady, butt, and mouth. Since the Pink Lady sleeve is considered one of the worst, most boring sleeves. Buy a BYO instead.
The Build Your Own (BYO) option lets you customize a pink Fleshlight sleeve with a selection of popular textures, a pussy or Butt orifice, and your preferred case color (black, gold, silver or dark blue).
Three BYO sleeves are considered best buys/must-buys by just about everyone: Wonder-wave, Mini-Lotus, and Destroya. Steer clear of the plain-Jane Pink Lady and Super Tight sleeves. You'd just be disappointed.
The Stamina Training Unit, or STU, was marketed as a device for increasing sexual stamina and treating premature ejaculation. Overall, it is highly-rated and considered an intense sleeve. Stamina Training Units have a gold case and pink STU sleeve, and are available in the Lady and Pure orifice styles.
Fleshjack’s version of the STU was called the Endurance Jack. It was identical to the STU, but instead of a vagina, the Endurance Jack came with a Butt, Cheeks, or Pure entry hole and a silver case. However, it's been replaced by the STU with options for Butt and Pure entries.
Ice Fleshlights are － you guessed it－the clear Fleshlights you can see through. Since they have translucent cases and sleeves, these strokers are especially fun to use as a couple’s sex toy since both of you can see your dick. These are available as Ice Lady, Ice Butt, and Ice Pure Fleshlights.
The two Turbo models are marketed as blowjob simulators. I’ve never used one of these sucking Fleshlights, but I’ve noticed that guys who like their Turbos REALLY like them. The Turbo Thrust used to be copper-colored, but currently both Turbo Fleshlights have Ice blue sleeves.
Not every guy is a pussy hound, so for men who like men, there’s the Fleshjack, the Fleshlight for gay and bisexual gentlemen. Like the FL Girls line, FleshJack Boys sleeves are molded from gay porn stars’ actual bodies in a range of flesh-toned colors, and they even have a line of realistic dildos molded from gay porn actors’ dicks. Fleshjack Boys cases are light blue.
Freaks was a weird, limited edition line of Halloween-themed Fleshlights and dildos first introduced in October, 2011. Alien, Zombie, Frankenstein, Cyborg, Bigfoot, and Yeti were just a few Freaks you could buy to satisfy your horror-fantasy cross-species sexual kinks. Long-since discontinued, they’re now considered valuable collector’s items.
I ordered direct from the manufacturer because I wanted to be sure I wasn't getting a cheap Chinese knockoff like they sell on Amazon, and because I like how they handle my private information and keep everything so discreet.
On your card statement, they don't mention what you bought, they just say you bought it from ILF (the initials of the parent company, Interactive Life Forms). And the cardboard shipping box is just as discreet. No mentions of what's inside or who its from. They keep everything on the downlow.
Even though Fleshlight sleeves feel like real skin, you’ll still need to use a quality water-based lubricant when you play with it. Squirt a couple drops into the orifice and slather some on your dick, then start experimenting.
Silicone and oil-based lubes are incompatible with Fleshlights since they damage the delicate sleeve texture with repeated use.
They're shipped with a free sample packet of their FleshLube Water. It’s excellent, but will only last one or two sessions at most. So if you don’t have any water-based lube at home, add some FleshLube to your cart to save yourself the hassle of another shopping trip.
Twisting the threaded end cap adjusts the suction and resistance you feel. The more closed it is, the more suction and resistance you will feel. Play around with it closed, loose, completely off and see what you like.
It feels tight and secure when the cap is rotated shut － or gloriously natural when the cap is removed. But when I adjust it to the middle, it sounds loose, like the cap could suddenly fall off, which feels distracting when I'm gooning out to Pornhub or whatever. Maybe it's just me, but I'd prefer having some notches that click into place and secure the cap at whatever level.
As you'd imagine, sticking your cock into a pre-warmed sleeve makes it feel even more realistic. Pushing your glans into a warm Fleshlight orifice feels amazing, and is worth the extra time investment, trust me.
How to warm your sleeve: Fill a bowl with hot (not boiling) water. Put your sleeve into water, wait 15 minutes, then put it back in the case and use it normally.
Fleshlight makes a USB-powered sleeve warmer for about $30, but I don’t consider it a must-have since you already own.
Overall, it’s not terribly difficult to care for a Fleshllte. The cleaning process is quick and easy. A couple minutes and it’s done. The drying process isn’t as fast or convenient, but as you'll see, there are some easy hacks to speed it up.
Soaps and detergents should never be used on Superskin sleeves, as they can cause the delicate material to degrade over time and increase the chance of rips and tears.
Instead, all you need is water.
After using your toy, you’re supposed to remove the sleeve from its case and rinse it thoroughly with water. On Fleshlight’s website, they recommend warm water. But I’ve found that warm water can turn cum and lube into little boogers in the nooks and crannies of a dirty sleeve, so I prefer cold water because it doesn’t do that.
Yes, I’d prefer to drop the sleeve into my dishwasher like I do with my Aneros, but a few minutes of hand-washing isn’t the end of the world. It IS a sex toy, after all, and cleaning takes about 2 minutes.
Tutorial: How to clean a Fleshlight
The drying process is what trips up most guys.
According to the instructions, Fleshlight sleeves need to air-dry completely before you put them away.
How long does it take to air-dry a Fleshlight sleeve?
It depends on the texture of the sleeve, and the relative humidity of your room. For example, my Riley Reid Euphoria sleeve was still moist the next morning after air-drying over 8 hours. However, this didn't shock me much, since the inner texture is so intricate and detailed － and the fact I live in Miami, Florida, which is balmy and humid most of the year.
The paper towel hack - Grab a paper towel and dab the sleeve until it’s dry the touch, inside and out.
The rubbing alcohol hack - Pour a tablespoon of rubbing alcohol into orifice of a newly-washed sleeve, squeeze the sleeve to spread the alcohol around, then let it drip out over your sink. The rubbing alcohol makes any residual moisture evaporate a lot faster.
Used together, the paper towel and rubbing alcohol reduced my Euphoria sleeve's drying time to about an hour.
Renewing powder sounds like something cult members sell, but actually it's just corn starch for powdering your hole.
What's powdering your hole?
I can explain. After repeated use, the surface of the sleeve will gradually start feeling sticky or tacky to the touch. Rubbing a little powder into a sleeve restores it to like-new condition.
It's optional, but a nice treat if you think you'll be Fleshlighting frequently.
If you’re on a budget: Skip the Renewing Powder and use corn starch instead － it’s the exact same thing.
If stealth and secrecy are high priorities for you, a Fleshlight may be too big, too time-consuming or too recognizable for your living situation. At nearly 4 inches in diameter, it may be too tall to fit inside a shallow dresser drawer or too large for a backpack if it's already full.
Recommended Tutorial: How To Hide a Fleshlight
If you aren’t worried about those things, however, storage should not pose a significant problem for you.
I poked around Reddit searching for real-world opinions from first-time buyers, and the customer reviews I found were generally positive. Here are a couple that stood out to me.
Side note: This guy sounds like he'd be fun at a party.
I like the way this gentleman rates the sensation of using a Fleshlight lower than actual sexual intercourse with a woman, but significantly higher than getting a handjob.
The sheer number of different options makes choosing a Fleshlight harder than it should be, especially for first-timers. So if you're a beginner and can't decide what to buy, choose one of these.
Combo packs are a good deal since they save you more than 15% and include everything you need: a case, a sleeve, and lube (with optional accessories)
The Buy 2 Get 1 Sleeve Free Deal offers a significant savings and good variety of different textures and sensations, but it only includes pink sleeves, so you'll need to add a case and some lube to your shopping cart when you order.
Buy a Fleshlight if you…
Don't buy a Fleshlight if you …
While Fleshlights are pricier, less discreet and larger than other male masturbators, their sensuous, supple sleeves combined with their extensive customization options can’t be beat.
No, it doesn’t. The manufacturer understands the importance of discreet shipping, so they never declare what’s in the box or mention Fleshlights, sex toys or anything that could cause embarassment.
The shipping label will identify the shipper as "ILF, Inc."
Your account statement will show a purchase from ILF LLC when you order from the manufacturer.
Yes, any regular-sized Fleshlight sleeve can be used with any regular-sized Fleshlight case. For example, you can use a Pink Crush sleeve in a clear Ice case.
Yes, when buying from the manufacturer, you can buy sleeves individually.
There is not a minimum penis length (or girth) for enjoying a Fleshlight, but if you’re concerned about size, Fleshlight makes several smaller pocket pussies with canals that are more narrow, Some smaller guys prefer the additional contact and tighter fit they get from smaller models like the Quickshot (reviewed here) and Flight (reviewed here).
Fleshlight sleeves have an insertable length of 9.5 inches and most textures can accommodate men with a girth up to 7 inches.