What is a Fleshlight? Here’s Everything You Should Know Before Making a Purchase

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Fleshlight is a brand of premium male masturbators designed to mimic the sensations of vaginal, anal and oral sex.

Fleshlight sells a bunch of different models, designs, and sizes, like the Quickshot and Flight - but most people define a Fleshlight as one of the large, full-size models. 

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They’ve got a hard exterior shell that resembles a heavy-duty flashlight, with a super soft, flesh-like sleeve that looks like an attractive vagina or butthole. In addition to their large assortment of different pussy and asshole sleeves, they also offer non-anatomical sleeves that don’t resemble the human body or make partners jealous.

Fleshlight Anatomy and Specs

Diagram of Fleshlight Anatomy: Front cap, Sleeve, Case, and  Back Cap
Diagram illustrating the front cap, sleeve, case, and back cap dimensions of a Fleshlight: 4" / 10.2 cm x 9.8"25 cm

The case

  • The case is made from hard, thick plastic. It feels substantial and solid when you hold it, like the kind of material used in high-end power tools or football helmets.

Two caps

  • The front cap protects the sleeve and helps disguise it.
  • The back cap adjusts the suction level.

Dimensions and weight

  • Length: 9.8 inches / 25 cm
  • Width: 4 inches / 10.2 cm at widest point 
  • Weight (without sleeve):  11.2 ounces / 318 grams


Over 7 million Fleshlights have been sold since 1998, when they were first introduced.

According to their parent company Interactive Life Forms, they sell more than 80,000 Fleshlights a month, with a whopping 40% of sales going to repeat customers.

That’s a lot of satisfied Fleshlight owners!

They look and feel so good, you’ll wonder why so many guys still use their hands. 


Older Fleshlights are priced at $69 and the newest ones are $79. They’re not exactly cheap, but lots of guys think they’re worth the cost because they feel so good.

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Fleshlight sleeves are interchangeable

Fleshlight sleeves feel soft, supple, and silky – like a real person's body. The sleeve material, called SuperSkin, is a non-toxic and phthalate-free blend of mineral oil and other body-safe ingredients.

First generation Fleshlight pink sleeves like this one are made of the same velvety smooth SuperSkin material as the newest Fleshlight Girls sleeves. Unlike the Fleshlight Girls orifices formed from porn actresses’ actual bodies, the original Fleshlight vagina and butt orifices are identical, since they were designed on computers rather than molded.

ILF, the manufacturer, is always designing and releasing new sleeve designs with unique textures, orifice styles, and colors. And since the sleeves are removable, you can switch out a sleeve whenever the mood strikes.

And when playtime is over, they’re easy to remove and clean.

Sleeve textures

In Flesh-speak, a texture is the design pattern of nubs, bumps, ridges, and caverns inside the sleeve. Since each Fleshlight texture has a different design, they produce different sensations of tightness, looseness, stimulation, and overall orgasmic intensity in use.

Stoya’s Destroya, Janice Griffiths’ Eden, and Riley Reid’s Utopia are three of the most popular sleeve textures in Fleshlight’s premium series, Fleshlight Girls.

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Fleshlight offers over 50 different sleeve textures, but since they live inside the sleeve, you can’t see them unless you turn your sleeve inside out (which is a no-no according to the instructions)

Premium materials and construction

Fleshlights are made of premium materials and built like tanks.

In the last three years, my Fleshlight has survived four accidental drops without a scratch–or any cracking. The first time I dropped it, I was certain that I’d destroyed it. But when I picked it up to inspect the damage, the case was barely scratched. They’re heavy-duty toys made to take a beating. The floors in my house are all hard terrazzo and concrete—so not exactly forgiving.

But with proper care, a Fleshlight should last a lifetime. 

Water-based lube required

As you'd expect, you need to lubricate your Fleshlight sleeve before using it.  Make sure you only use water-based lubes, though, since oil-based, silicone, and hybrid lubes are incompatible with the material in Fleshlight sleeves.

If you're a lube aficionado, or just picky about ingredients in your skin care products, these are the best Fleshlight lubes according to Reddit.

How to use a Fleshlight

Masturbating with a Fleshlight is pretty intuitive…just give yourself a hard-on, apply some lube to the orifice, and push it down onto your dick. 

Popular Fleshlight positions and techniques

  • Lying on your back - Just lie back, relax, and enjoy your Fleshlight.
  • Sitting comfortably in a chair - Stroke yourself from the comfort of a chair.
  • Missionary position - Position your Fleshlight between some cushions, lay on top of it, and fuck it missionary style. 
  • Doggie-style - Wedge your Fleshlight between your mattress and box spring, then fuck it standing up or on your knees.

Who should buy a Fleshlight

You should consider purchasing a Fleshlight if you are …

  • Horny all the time, but bored with your hand
  • Interested in new sensations when you jerk off
  • Single
  • Want to know how sex feels
  • Looking for ways to spice up your sex life
  • Want ideas for a new sex toy
  • In a long-distance relationship
  • Trying to increase your sexual stamina
  • Trying to overcome Death Grip Syndrome

Are Fleshlights worth it?

Most Fleshlight users (including me) would tell you, “Yes, they’re absolutely worth the money.”

But each guy’s body and sexual response is different. 

The only way to know for sure if you’ll like using a Fleshlight is to try one.

If you’re still on the fence, you could try reading some Fleshlight user reviews.

What Fleshlight should you buy?

With all the different models and textures, choosing your first Fleshlight can feel a little overwhelming, so here’s my best buying advice and some general suggestions.

If it’s your first Fleshlight purchase

For beginners, I suggest going with something popular, but not especially tight or intense that will still knock your socks off.

If you’re a newbie, I’d avoid the Classic Pink Lady, Stamina Training Unit, and Destroya textures because they’re all either too boring or too tight for beginners.

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A Fleshlight Combo Pack can save you 20% or more if you're planning to buy lube, renewing powder, a shower mount, or other accessories along with a Fleshlight.
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Harry D Somers

Harry D. Somers

Harry D. Somers is the editor and founder of Fresh Materials. Based in Miami Florida, he's the kinky, bisexual, horny, sex-positive blogger behind FM's articles, tutorials, and toy reviews.

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