What is a Fleshlight? Here’s What To Consider Before Buying Your First Fleshlight

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What is a Fleshlight? Here's everything you need to know, including meanings, definitions and diagrams
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Fleshlight is a brand of premium male masturbators designed to mimic the sensations of vaginal, anal and oral sex.

Fleshlight sells a bunch of different models, designs, and sizes, like the Quickshot and Flight - but most people define a Fleshlight as one of the large, full-size models. 

Learn More: Ultimate Fleshlight Review

They’ve got a hard exterior shell that resembles a heavy-duty flashlight, with a super soft, flesh-like sleeve that looks like an attractive vagina or butthole. In addition to their large assortment of different pussy and asshole sleeves, they also offer non-anatomical sleeves that don’t resemble the human body or make partners jealous.

Fleshlight Parts Diagram

Diagram of Fleshlight Anatomy: Front cap, Sleeve, Case, and  Back Cap
Diagram illustrating the front cap, sleeve, case, and back cap dimensions of a Fleshlight: 4" / 10.2 cm x 9.8"25 cm

The case

  • The case is made from hard, thick plastic. It feels substantial and solid when you hold it, like the kind of material used in high-end power tools or football helmets.

Two caps

  • The front cap protects the sleeve and helps disguise it.
  • The back cap adjusts the suction level.

Dimensions and weight

  • Length: 9.8 inches / 25 cm
  • Width: 4 inches / 10.2 cm at widest point 
  • Weight (without sleeve):  11.2 ounces / 318 grams

Popularity

Over 7 million Fleshlights have been sold since 1998, when they were first introduced.

According to their parent company Interactive Life Forms, they sell more than 80,000 Fleshlights a month, with a whopping 40% of sales going to repeat customers.

That’s a lot of satisfied Fleshlight owners!

They look and feel so good, you’ll wonder why so many guys still use their hands. 

Pricing

Older Fleshlights are priced at $69 and the newest ones are $79. They’re not exactly cheap, but lots of guys think they’re worth the cost because they feel so good.

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Interchangeable sleeves

Fleshlight sleeves feel soft, supple, and silky – like a real person's body. The sleeve material, called SuperSkin, is a non-toxic and phthalate-free blend of mineral oil and other body-safe ingredients.

First generation Fleshlight pink sleeves like this one are made of the same velvety smooth SuperSkin material as the newest Fleshlight Girls sleeves. Unlike the Fleshlight Girls orifices formed from porn actresses’ actual bodies, the original Fleshlight vagina and butt orifices are identical, since they were designed on computers rather than molded.

ILF, the manufacturer, is always designing and releasing new sleeve designs with unique textures, orifice styles, and colors. And since the sleeves are removable, you can switch out a sleeve whenever the mood strikes.

And when playtime is over, they’re easy to remove and clean.

Read buying guide: The Best Fleshlight Sleeves and Textures

Sleeve textures

In Flesh-speak, a texture is the design pattern of nubs, bumps, ridges, and caverns inside the sleeve. Since each Fleshlight texture has a different design, they produce different sensations of tightness, looseness, stimulation, and overall orgasmic intensity in use.

Stoya’s Destroya, Janice Griffiths’ Eden, and Riley Reid’s Utopia are three of the most popular sleeve textures in Fleshlight’s premium series, Fleshlight Girls.

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Fleshlight offers over 50 different sleeve textures, but since they live inside the sleeve, you can’t see them unless you turn your sleeve inside out (which is a no-no according to the instructions)

Premium materials and construction

Fleshlights are made of premium materials and built like tanks.

In the last three years, my Fleshlight has survived four accidental drops without a scratch–or any cracking. The first time I dropped it, I was certain that I’d destroyed it. But when I picked it up to inspect the damage, the case was barely scratched. They’re heavy-duty toys made to take a beating. The floors in my house are all hard terrazzo and concrete—so not exactly forgiving.

But with proper care, a Fleshlight should last a lifetime. 

Water-based lube required

As you'd expect, you need to lubricate your Fleshlight sleeve before using it.  Make sure you only use water-based lubes, though, since oil-based, silicone, and hybrid lubes are incompatible with the material in Fleshlight sleeves.

If you're a lube aficionado, or just picky about ingredients in your skin care products, these are the best Fleshlight lubes according to Reddit.

How to use a Fleshlight

Masturbating with a Fleshlight is pretty intuitive…just give yourself a hard-on, apply some lube to the orifice, and push it down onto your dick. 

Popular Fleshlight positions and techniques

  • Lying on your back - Just lie back, relax, and enjoy your Fleshlight.
  • Sitting comfortably in a chair - Stroke yourself from the comfort of a chair.
  • Missionary position - Position your Fleshlight between some cushions, lay on top of it, and fuck it missionary style. 
  • Doggie-style - Wedge your Fleshlight between your mattress and box spring, then fuck it standing up or on your knees.

Who should buy a Fleshlight

You should consider purchasing a Fleshlight if you are …

  • Horny all the time, but bored with your hand
  • Interested in new sensations when you jerk off
  • Single
  • Want to know how sex feels
  • Looking for ways to spice up your sex life
  • Want ideas for a new sex toy
  • In a long-distance relationship
  • Trying to increase your sexual stamina
  • Trying to overcome Death Grip Syndrome

Are Fleshlights worth it?

Most Fleshlight users (including me) would tell you, “Yes, they’re absolutely worth the money.”

But each guy’s body and sexual response is different. 

The only way to know for sure if you’ll like using a Fleshlight is to try one.

If you’re still on the fence, you could try reading some Fleshlight user reviews.

What Fleshlight should you buy?

With all the different models and textures, choosing your first Fleshlight can feel a little overwhelming, so here’s my best buying advice and some general suggestions.

If it’s your first Fleshlight purchase

For beginners, I suggest going with something popular, but not especially tight or intense that will still knock your socks off.

If you’re a newbie, I’d avoid the Classic Pink Lady, Stamina Training Unit, and Destroya textures because they’re all either too boring or too tight for beginners.

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Best Overall

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Best Flesh Light Overall - Mia Malkova Lvl Up

Our Rating

4.5
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pros

  • Intense sleeve with swirling texture gives milking sensation
  • Off-center orifice offers extra pressure
  • Bumps and ridges squeeze the frenulum and glans

Cons

  • Some guys feel the sleeve is overrated

Mia Malkova's Lvl Up Fleshlight offers wonderful initial penetration thanks to the offset bump, allowing you to play 'Just The Tip' for hours. Once you finally slide in, a chamber of swirly suckers softly slides, grips, and twists you into ecstasy. Lvl Up offers an intense combo of sensations that will milk you dry quickly if you're not paying attention.

Read full review: Ultimate Fleshlight Review

Best for beginners

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Best Fleshlight for Beginners - Dillion Harper Crush

Our Rating

4.5
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pros

  • This smooth, low to mid-intensity sleeve is one of the best for hard pounding
  • Texture isn’t aggressive or super busy but still feels incredibly realistic
  • Equally good for quick lunch-break nuts and longer edging sessions

Cons

  • May be too loose for guys with Death Grip Syndrome.

Dillion Harper's Crush Fleshlight offers a great balance of realism and gentle stimulation that's ideal for beginners. Crush is a versatile sleeve with a 'mild to wild' personality and wonderfully varied textures that will bring you to your knees.

Best pornstar Fleshlight

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Best Pornstar Fleshlight - Riley Reid Utopia

Our Rating

4.0
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pros

  • Mild, realistic entrance feels more intense the deeper you go
  • Interesting variety is a ton of fun to thrust hard and fast into
  • Ridges and nubs stimulate gently while building you up to intense orgasms

Cons

  • Some girthy guys say those little bumpy nodes can feel too rough and intense

The Riley Reid Utopia Fleshlight blends textured walls with size-changing canals and tighter nodes to push through. If you like a soft, smooth sleeve with interesting variety, Utopia will knock your socks off.

Best pink Fleshlight

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Best Pink Fleshlight Sleeve - Destroya

Our Rating

4.5
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pros

  • Tight entryway opens into chamber of fangs
  • Lady and butt entries available
  • $10 cheaper than Stoya's version

Cons

  • Slower than average drying time
  • Must Build Your Own for complete Fleshlight with case

The Fleshlight Destroya texture is famous for being one of the most intense and stimulating sleeves, and it definitely lives up to its reputation. But brute force intensity is not its only shining quality. Expect to be enveloped by spikey fangs that massage your member into an orgasmic mess.

Best blowjob Fleshlight

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Best Blowjob Fleshlight - Turbo Thrust

Our Rating

4.0
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pros

  • The Thrust orifice and texture provide a truly unique Fleshlight sensation
  • Two front rings provide soft, consistent pressure to your shaft
  • $10 cheaper than Fleshlight Girls

Cons

  • Blue Ice material becomes cloudy over time

The two leading rings of the Turbo Thrust Fleshlight simulate the feeling of lips and tongue during a blowjob. Each ring provides soft, consistent pressure on your shaft and a range of intensity as you thrust deeper inside the canal. Plus, the successively tightening spiked rings and the chamber of teeth that lay beyond them actually simulate the feeling of a sloppy wet blowjob. And they're only intensified by watching your cock fill up the canal. The Turbo Thrust is a must for every Fleshlight collector.

Best vibrating Fleshlight

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Best Vibrating Fleshlight - Vibro Touch

Our Rating

3.5
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pros

  • Intense, stimulating texture works great for quickies
  • Entrance feels extremely tight when vibes used
  • Vagina and butt entries available
  • 3 bullet vibrators and 10 batteries included

Cons

  • Can be too stimulating for some guys

The Vibro Fleshlight is like the STU on steroids. The Vibro's special sleeve, called Touch, holds up to three battery-powered vibrators. The entire interior canal of the Touch sleeve is lined with cylindrical "fingers" that rub, nudge, and prod every part of the penis from the base to the tip, similar to the STU's sleeve design.

Best Clear Fleshlight

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Our Rating

4.0
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pros

  • Super stimulating round bumped chambers up front
  • Cool to watch yourself penetrate the toy
  • Both pussy and ass entries available

Cons

  • Clear Ice sleeves become cloudy over time

The Ice Fleshlight comes in both vagina and butt entries, but regardless of orifice, its legendary see-through Crystal texture offers a great combination of stimulation and variation. You get chambers lined with thick ribs, round bumps and rings of various sizes grip and rub your manhood, then open up to a nice gentle massage passage.The variation in textures means that you can get different sensations by focussing on different parts of the sleeve, so I find it pretty perfect for edging.

Most realistic vagina

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Best Realistic Vagina Fleshlight - Dominika Butterfly

Our Rating

4.5
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pros

  • Large, meaty labia slap your balls at full penetration
  • Wide caverns and large nodes offer high stimulation and low intensity
  • Looseness allows slow buildup and long, explosive orgasms

Cons

  • Guys who prize tightness above realism will find it lacking

Dominika's Butterfly Fleshlight provides amazing realism and orgasm quality with a large attractive vulva that you won't be able to look away from. The first chamber has a very open channel containing large alternating pill shaped nodes that allows for quite a lot of movement and stimulation. The second chamber gets a bit tighter as you squeeze through a narrow passage of textured bumps. The third chamber of soft pointed nubs surround your cock and massage it from all angles.

Most realistic butt

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Most Realistic Butt Fleshlight - Eva Lovia Spice

Our Rating

4.5
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pros

  • Narrow ribbed chamber creates awesome suction effect
  • Milder anal texture great for edging
  • Quiet with fast cleaning and drying times

Cons

  • Longer than average "break-in" time

Eva Lovia's Spice Fleshlight is that rare anal sleeve that feels realistic without being overly intense or aggressive. The Spice texture features a narrow entry chamber followed by a larger open area with small nubs, then finally another narrow ribbed chamber. This design creates a gentle suction effect that sucks your cock deeper into the sleeve. The combination of low to mid-intensity, realism, and mild suction feel awesome and result in high orgasm quality.

Best tight Fleshlight

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Best Tight Flesh Light - Brandi Love Shameless

Our Rating

4.5
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pros

  • Brandi's tight butthole is extremely tight
  • Unique protruding cheeks tickle your undercarriage
  • Very lube efficient

Cons

  • Cleaning and drying times on the long side

Brandi Love's Shameless Fleshlight is an extremely tight anal sleeve with a one-of-a-kind penetration experience. Stretch out her tiny little hole and push into a narrow, nubbed chamber that gives way to layers of honeycomb ridges that ratchet up the pressure.

With your dick fully inserted, Brandi's protruding buttocks tickle your balls and tease your sensitive undercarriage.

Read buying guide: The Tightest Fleshlight Sleeves

Best intense Fleshlight

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Best Intense Fleshlight - Nikki Benz Reign

Our Rating

4.5
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pros

  • Woven texture in first chamber feels uniquely intense
  • Moderately tight sleeve allows you to feel every bump and rib

Cons

  • Intricate pattern needs a bit more cleanup time

The first chamber of the Nikki Benz Reign Fleshlight is lined with a thick criss-cross pattern that feels amazing as you slide in, especially on your head and frenelum. Push further and you can feel several rings pop and squeeze your tip, before you enter into an even tighter area. There is no relief with this sleeve, it is intense sensation after intense sensation.

Best gentle Fleshlight

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Best Gentle Fleshlight - Ana Foxxx Silk

Our Rating

4.5
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pros

  • A smooth, moderately tight and intense sleeve that's excellent for edging
  • Chocolate brown superskin material beautiful to look at
  • Great for slow buildups and big climaxes

Cons

  • Suction effect can be noisy

Ana Foxx's Silk Fleshlight is silky smooth, but not so smooth that it's boring. There are some mild variations in the texture but overall it's a medium tight and gentle ride that works well for longer and less intense edging sessions. The smaller channel with the little bumps feels delightful as you push into the third chamber, lightly teasing your tip, building excitement and the drive towards climax. This makes it a great texture to try at different stoke lengths and positions.

Best cheap Fleshlight

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Riley Reid Quickshot

Best Cheap Fleshlight - Riley Reid Quickshot

Our Rating

4.5
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pros

  • Mini Utopia sleeve include Riley Reid's vagina and butt
  • Two orgasmic orifices for the price of one
  • Quick and easy cleanup

Cons

  • Noisier than larger Fleshlights
  • Not as good as the large size Riley Reid Fleshlight

Riley Reid's Quickshot packs a surprising variety of textures into the Quickshot's smaller open-ended stroker design. Push past Riley's lips into her snug pussy and you'll feel the grip of stimulating gears. On the opposite end, her asshole has a nice tightness to it with a blocky pattern that offer a nice resistance.

Read full review: Fleshlight Quickshot Review

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Harry D Somers

Harry D. Somers

Harry D. Somers is the editor and founder of Fresh Materials. Based in Miami Florida, he's the kinky, bisexual, horny, sex-positive blogger behind FM's articles, tutorials, and toy reviews.

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